This is a quick post because it’s really a simple matter.

If you want to find Mr. Right or Ms. Special, get off your butt and go find them!

A lot of Christians think it’s wise to stay perfectly still and wait for God to do something. There’s some truth in waiting for God’s perfect will, but here’s the kicker: you know enough to get moving. Mr. Man is not going to come strolling up to your house on his white stallion. Ms. Woman is not going to descend from the sky, fold back her wings, and fall right into your arms.

Live your life, go to work, go to school, go to church, go to Yoga, whatever you go. That’s where you’re going to find that special person: out in the world.

Rebecca became Isaac’s wife by doing her normal chores and choosing to be kind to a stranger, too. Jacob met Rachel by working for her dad. Ruth met Boaz while looking for food and Boaz met Ruth while doing his normal job. Only one man in the Bible just woke up and found a woman, and that was Adam. I doubt God is going to tell you to take a nap and make a wife out of your rib.

Where is that perfect someone? In the world, just like you should be.

I’m not saying to become desperate, thoroughly inspecting every man or woman. That’s just creepy. I’m simply saying go about your life and keep your eyes peeled. It’s okay to be looking, in fact, I encourage it! But don’t be so obsessed with finding your future spouse that you neglect the work God has already told you to do. 

Don’t sit around waiting for them to just walk right up to you and don’t become desperate. God will bring them to you, but He also wants you to get up so that He can bring you to them.